Whether adoptees are dealing with substance abuse, mental health problems or behavioral issues, treating adopted children can be especially challenging. When teens are unaware of their history, it is common for them to blame themselves for being placed up for adoption. For example, teens who display behavioral issues may believe that this is the reason they weren’t wanted by their birth parents.

Blame and Guilt

It's not uncommon for adopted children to feel abandoned or rejected by their birth parents. In many cases, this leads to feelings of grief and loss that give way to feelings blame and guilt. Unfortunately, this can result in medical and psychological complications. In order to cope with their feelings, they may turn to alcohol and drugs. However, if they can learn to manage their feelings, they usually have a higher self-worth. This, in turn, can decrease their chances of developing a substance abuse problem.

Many adopted teens express guilt when asking questions about their adoption, also when voicing a desire to find their birth parents. This is the result of feeling of being disloyal to their adopted parents. They may have a difficult time articulating their guilt resulting in an increased likelihood of acting out or extreme changes in their emotional behavior.

History of Genetics

Adopted teens that are not aware of their genetics and family medical history may develop medical issues. Some disorders, including drug abuse, are linked to genetics. Children who are struggling with behavioral and/or substance abuse problems may be helped by knowing that the problems they are facing may have been passed down their genetic lines.

It's common for adopted children to have difficulty establishing their own identity, a pivotal part of their emotional development. In this case, they need to be given as clear a background on their history as possible.

How You Can Help Your Adopted Teen

• Gain as much information as you can about adopted children, as well as their experiences and family. This can be achieved by reading articles, blog posts, and more.
• Do not be afraid to provide your child with psychotherapy. This offers them an outlet for any feelings they may have over the fear or anger of being adopted, as well as depression, guilt, and anxiety.
• Attend support groups aimed at helping adopted individuals of all ages cope with their frustrations, fears, and feelings.

If you know an adopted teen who needs help. Call one of our advocates today at 435-635-0636. We can help.